Philosophy

Personal Development Principle #2: Get Clarity

If you browse the self-help section of almost any bookstore, there seem to be nearly infinite principles, strategies and tips for living well.

But it goes deeper than self-help. Psychology, religion, philosophy and other fields all offer advice for how we ought to conduct ourselves and treat others: Meditate. Be more productive. Journal. Live in the now. Love thy neighbor. Be more assertive. Practice gratitude. Never be satisfied. Focus on the positive. Prepare for the worst case scenario. Be self-aware. Accept yourself.

It can be overwhelming.

But what if there are far fewer self-improvement principles than we think there are?

Personal Development Principle #1: Pay Attention

If you look at the self-help section of almost any bookstore, there seem to be nearly infinite principles, strategies and tips for living well. But is this really the case? What if there are far fewer life principles than we think there are?

Being a student of personal development and other related fields for the past 15 years, I’ve been exposed to a massive amount of ideas. Recently, I’ve been thinking about the best way to organize this information in order to make sense of it all…

Finding Common Ground Between Different Philosophies

I love figuring out where different worldviews overlap. I find it fascinating to identify the common ground between seemingly disparate ideas, people, and ways of thinking.

There are many different lenses through which we can view the world and make sense of it. Often, we do this by using frameworks.

For example, let’s say you wanted to learn how best to live in the world and interact with others. You could internalize the principles of Buddhism then go out and use that framework to make sense of the world. Alternatively, you could study the findings of modern psychology and use that framework to make sense of the world.

Although these frameworks vary in their details and levels of resolution, each does an adequate job of explaining what it sets out to explain. And both will help you achieve a similar goal in the end…

The Utility of Obstacles

Imagine if you had no challenges, no struggles at all. Everything you ever wanted you already had and anything you could ever want in the future required no effort to get.

What kind of life would that be? Not a human one, that’s for sure.

The truth is, we need resistance. We need something to push back against. In fact, we thrive on it. As the legendary Roman Emperor Marcus Aurelius wrote, "The impediment to action advances action. What stands in the way becomes the way."

Here are three ways obstacles can actually be useful:

1.) OBSTACLES FORCE US TO THINK DIFFERENTLY
When we face challenges head on, we force ourselves to find innovative solutions that we otherwise wouldn't have thought of. In fact, we often perform BETTER in the face of challenges. We rise to the occasion. And during this process, we also create value for others, even if it's just being a shining example of what's possible.

2.) OBSTACLES PROVIDE CLARITY
If you're unsure about what area of your life to focus on or what your next steps should be, start by identifying your biggest obstacle or disadvantage, then work on overcoming it. That's where you'll find the most excitement and satisfaction. When you have a clearly defined problem to deal with, as opposed to generalized anxiety or fear, the path you must take suddenly becomes much clearer.

3.) OBSTACLES ARE OFTEN BLESSINGS IN DISGUISE
Think of all the times you've reflected on seemingly unfortunate events months or years after the fact and realized they were actually blessings in disguise. Why wait to do this retrospectively? Realize now that the problem in front of you might actually be the best thing for you.

A personal note: It was my own struggle with understanding and remembering certain personal development principles that compelled me to translate these concepts into clear and simple language to improve my own learning. This habit eventually led to the creation of @thinkgrowprosper, which has brought me a great deal of joy and satisfaction.

P.S. Check out my podcast episode with Ryan Holiday for more thoughts on using obstacles to our advantage.